Nowadays I am into sharing different blog entries that I find interesting and worth to share (since I am busy going round my business, hope you understand). Anyways here is something I have read from Positivity Blog on how to overcome envy to  live a positive day-to-day existence.

Hope you like it!

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Nowadays I am into sharing different blog entries that I find interesting and worth to share (since I am busy going round my business, hope you understand). Anyways here is something I have read from Positivity Blog on how to overcome envy to  live a positive day-to-day existence.

Hope you like it!

Envy can be like a tiny devil on your shoulder that whisper words into your ear, gnashes on your soul and makes life into something that is often filled with suffering and much negativity. Or the envy can just be something that irritates and distracts you from time to time.

In any case, it doesn’t have to be that way. If you want to, then you can at least minimize it in your life.

So that you can spend your time here in a lighter and happier headspace.

Focus on yourself when it comes to comparing.

Comparing what you have to what others have is a good way to make yourself miserable. It feeds your ego when you buy a nicer car or get a better job than someone else. You feel great for a while.

But this mindset and the focus on comparing always winds up in you noticing someone that has more than you. That someone has an even better job or car than you. And so you don’t feel so good anymore.

The thing is that there is always someone with better or more than you. So you can never “win”. You just feel good for a while and then you don’t.

A more useful way to compare is to just compare yourself to yourself. Look at how you have grown and what you have achieved. Appreciate what you have done and what you have. See how far you have come and what you are planning to do.

This will make you make you more positive and emotionally stable since you are no longer comparing and feeling envious of what the other guy have that you haven’t.

Be grateful for what you got.

Besides comparing yourself to yourself it can be helpful to add a regular gratitude exercise to your life to minimize the envy.

So take just two minutes out of your day to focus on being grateful for all the things you got.Make a list of them in your head or write them down in journal at the beginning or end of the day.

Develop an abundance mentality.

Envy often seems to come from a perceived scarcity in some area of your life. Maybe you feel envious because someone else got the job you wanted. Or because someone else got the opportunity that you had hoped for. Perhaps you are feeling envious because you are afraid of losing something and feel that if you do then you have hit rock bottom.

Focusing your mind on the scarcity can really screw with your thoughts, feelings and life. It can cause much stronger negative emotions than is really reasonable. And it gets you really stuck in the envy, intensifying it, making it stronger and more long-lasting by feeding it with more thoughts and emotional energy.

To get out of this confining and destructive mentality you can choose to focus on the opportunities and the new chances. You can develop an abundance mentality.

There are always new business opportunities to find, new tests in school to take and new people to date/make friends with. This way of thinking relieves much of the pressure you may feel if you have a scarcity mentality that makes you think that you only got this shot right now. Or makes you feel like an utter failure just because you just stumbled and things didn’t work out this time.

So keep your focus steadily on the opportunities, on the new chances, on what you can learn from your failures as best you can instead of confining your mind and your life.

It is sometimes hard to do so from day to day but it is even harder in the long run to live a life where you don’t keep that positive focus.

Think about what’s in it for you.

I have found this to be helpful in many cases when I have negative thoughts or when I’m behaving in a less than useful way.

Basically, I ask myself: What’s in it for me? And each time I fall back into that negative headspace and behaviour I remind myself of this question and the answer.

This reinforces to me the pointlessness of what I’m thinking. And often I just think to myself: “Oh, I’m being stupid again. Time to focus on something useful/fun/positive instead”.

Now, there are upsides of being envious that can make it hard to let go of it. When you are being envious you may not take chances or go into the unknown. You just judge people that have taken the chances from the safety of the sidelines. Feeling envious can also make you feel like a victim. Such a mentality may sound very unattractive for anyone to want.

But in reality it brings you attention and validation because you can always get good feelings from other people as they are concerned about you and try to help you out. And you don’t have to take the sometimes heavy responsibility. Taking responsibility for your own life can be hard work, you have to make difficult decisions and it is just heavy sometimes.

When you are ready to let go of that safety and those somewhat strange upsides it will be easier to change how you act and how you think about things.

Get a life.

Simple and perhaps the best tip in my opinion.

If you find yourself sitting around too much and not having enough to do then it’s very easy to feel stuck and to get stuck in thought loops and go into a downward spiral.

Simply by filling your life with more fun activities and people and the things you want out of life you won’t have time or a reason to be envious. Other benefits of getting a life are that you become a lot more relaxed and less prone to overreacting about the little things.

So spend less time analyzing life and more time living and exploring it in whatever way you’d like.

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It’s fun to use social media for marketing and advertising. However, for some people, it becomes too enjoyable that they start getting too engrossed in what they’re doing. I see many people who spend a lot of time online.

You have to remember that you need to keep things in balance. This tip works well in real life as well as in social media. It’s also a good thing to remember that there’s another life we need to live, in the offline world.

What exactly do I mean when I say people overdo their social media efforts?

Some people update too much to the point of flooding your inbox or timeline.
Some people like to talk too much that they no longer listen.
Some people babble on and on about things that you don’t need.
Again, the keyword is balance. In as much as frequency of posting is a good thing, you have to keep things balanced and consistent.

What do I mean by that? Here are some great tips to make sure that you keep both.

On the subject of your posts

It’s quite easy to get into the habit of writing good things about your company, products, or services. However, that can come across as being narcissistic to your readers.

Try to keep balance but talking about other stuff every once in a while. If you’re implementing something new in your business, then you can share that. If there’s new news in your industry, you might want to try talking about that, too.

My point is, there are other things to write about. Don’t be afraid to mix things up and talk about different topics. Just make sure that it adds value to your customers.

On the frequency of your posts

With so many materials to use for updates and posts, it’s easy to just throw them in in one big dump. It’s okay to do that, if only most people would misinterpret this as update flooding. Or worse, spamming.

For good measure, try to space updates evenly throughout the day. If you have, say, a dozen of updates to post for the day, instead of posting them in one go, try posting one every couple of hours or so.

On your online presence

There will always be times when you have a lot of things to say, and times where you’ve got squat. This is where scheduling your posts comes in handy.

Don’t make a habit out of being very active at one time and vanishing off the face of the web at another. You’ll lose followers you keep this up.

Readers want consistency, and this is where scheduling your posts come into play. Aside from evenly distributing updates throughout the day, you have to set the number of updates you publish in a day to set aside buffer posts for times when you have nothing to say.

Remember that once you’re able to establish balance and consistency in your social media practice, you’ll slowly be able to gain your reader’s trust and support. Once they do, they won’t hesitate to patronize your products or even do business with you.

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Perfectionism is indeed a disorder, especially if you are in a time framed industry. It takes time for you to do things, it makes you worry about every little thing imaginable. And it gives you heart attack. Well, some os us will.

Here is a blog post I found while surfing over the Internet about perfectionism, and I think it is interesting enough to be put here.

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While spending much time working on my new book during the last month I felt old thought patterns pop up. Perfectionism reared its unsettling and distracting head.

So I had to redirect my focus. Use a couple of techniques and strategies and remind myself of a few things to be able to avoid procrastination, stop the polishing and get the book done. I’ll share that worked for me below (plus a few tips that have been effective in the past).

1. Go for good enough.

Aiming for perfection usually winds up in a project or something else never being finished. So go for good enough instead. Don’t use it as an excuse to slack off. But simply realize that there is something called good enough and when you are there then you are finished with whatever you are doing.

So find a balance for yourself where you do good work and don’t slack off but at the same time don’t get lost in trying to improve and polish something too much. How to find that balance? I have found it through experience.

2. Have a deadline.

A few months ago, I set a deadline for when my book should be finished. I had realized that just working on it and releasing it when it was done would not work. Because I could always find stuff to add to it. So I had to set a deadline.

Setting a deadline gave me a kick in the butt and it is generally good way to help you to let go of a need to polish things a bit too much.

3. Realize that you hurt yourself and the people around you by buying into myths of perfection.

By watching too many movies, listening to too many songs and just taking in what the world is telling you it is very easy to be lulled into dreams of perfection. It sounds so good and wonderful and you want it.

But in real life it clashes with reality and tends to cause much suffering and stress within you and in the people around you. It can harm or possibly lead you to end relationships, jobs, projects etc. just because your expectations are out of this world.

I find it very helpful to remind myself of this simple fact.

Whenever I get lost in a perfectionist headspace I remind myself that it will cause me and my world harm. And so it become easier to switch my focus and thought patterns because I want to avoid making stupid choices and avoid causing myself and other people unnecessary pain.

4. Accept that you are human and so is everyone else.

Set human standards for everyone and accept that life is like that.

Everything and everyone has flaws and things don’t always go as planned. You can still improve things but they will never be perfect. And realize that you won’t be rejected if things or you aren’t perfect. At least not by reasonably well-balanced human beings, like most people actually are in reality.

5. Compare yourself to yourself.

Comparing yourself to other people on a regular basis can easily lead to feeling inferior. There will always be a lot of people ahead of you in any area of life. So compare yourself to yourself. See your improvement, see how far you have come. Appreciate yourself and focus what you have done and are doing rather than what everyone else is doing.

6. Do what you think is the right thing.

So you realize that perfectionism will harm you and you try to avoid it. But people and media and the society around you have an influence over how you think and feel.

One of the best ways I have found to practically lessen that influence is by doing the right thing as much as possible. When you do that other people’s expectations have less and less power of over you and you get in control instead.

Because by doing the right thing your esteem of yourself goes up and other people’s opinions about you and life will matter less to you. Instead of their influence being like a tsunami flooding over you it flows right over you. Or bounces off you. Because now you have become stronger, more certain in who you are and you are not so easily swayed by external forces.

7. Live in an environment of human standards.

Emotions are contagious. So is perfectionism. Even though you can lessen the impact that your environment has you can also work at the other end of things and shape your environment to lessen the influence of perfectionism.

Read magazines with realistic expectations. Reduce the perfectionism in your world by reducing or cutting out the media sources that every week try to reinforce it in you.

Spend less time with nervously perfectionistic people and more time with people who are trying to improve themselves and/or are living a good life in a positive, healthy and relaxed way.

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You can stop perfectionism disorder if you want to. Just let go, relax, and take it one step at a time. To further help you with online business, here is a link!

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There are many ways that you can make good blog money and creating content is where a lot of your blogging money comes from.

SEO Articles – I get random emails that say ‘please take a look at my site. How much?’ Making blog money is still a mystery to some. The first thing I would offer any company or website is to create SEO articles in their niche and scatter them on their website and the web. Writing SEO articles from scratch can make you good blogging money for any website or blog. Your blog! Organic traffic is the #2 method for blog money on the Internet so keep reading for #1.

SEO Copywriting – Go over a websites copy and pre-existing articles and re-write them. (This post is updated and tweaked.) I find a lot of offers to re-write certain types of articles because they need updated keywords mainly, better placement and believe it or not fewer word count. Keep it simple. Re-write articles, posts, and make improvements in copy if you can because it will be less work and more blogging money for you. Do the same for your blog to gain more organic traffic.

Write Reviews – If you have slammin’ traffic you can make good blogging money to post reviews on your site or blog. Blogs work best for this. You can also write a stockpile of reviews for a company and leave the marketing to them. This again comes down to SEO copy. Offer this service to prospects and clients if they haven’t thought of it yet. They may know all about the marketing aspects and they just need people to write for them. Review other sites and post them to your blog. Review products and submit SEO product reviews and articles in forums, Craigslist and article directories for even more traffic. More blogging money for you!

Get Paid to Blog – Guest blogging. These are not things you should be doing for free. I understand that guest blogging is to swap traffic and introduce one audience to another. Too many sites take advantage of bloggers and exploit their guests. You should be blogging to make money for yourself not anyone else. Unless they pay you! Did you know that one of the largest blogs that brings in the most money does not pay their bloggers? They are relying on the sole pleasure that bloggers will have blogging for them. Whatever! Don’t blog for free! That is not what you are here for and there are better ways to get exposure without selling yourself short.

Ebooks – If you can write an ebook for someone they will pay you handsomely for it. Some people don’t want to monkey around with the writing and adding links portion because they want to make money in other ways. Learn how to deal with graphics, PDF’s and incorporating links from your clients sites. This could be an ongoing way for some blogging money. Write a review and sell the book on your own blog! Write your own book and you’re in business.

Press Releases – This by far is the easiest and if you do this well it can be an on going service. I’d charge monthly and decide on the maximum press releases you are willing to do for X amount of money. This is only to write the press release and not distribution. You could charge extra for that. Easy stuff. Place SEO press releases on your own blog. You’ll have more optimized content, more pages and more blog money coming to you!

Direct Email Marketing – Yep saved the best for last. This is the lifeblood of most blogs. Your blog has excellent content and you need to pass on this valuable info to your readers somehow. Look into email marketing and know the laws in your state. There are strict rules for email marketing so know the law. Direct email marketing is the number one way businesses in real life make money. Before the Internet it was direct mailing. Still a good way to market and make money but cheaper and more effective to use email.

Mainly use your blog as if it were a business card. Show examples of your writing, marketing and traffic stats. Show off some of the SEO optimization.

The writing portions are different from the marketing, SEO and viral marketing (sometimes incorporated) but that is how it goes in order to make good blog money. Those are extra or up-sale services and more blogging money for you. Make sure you decide what it is you want to get paid for and make that your primary focus. What else do you do well that you can turn into a blogging service that will benefit others? I like getting paid to blog, write and market so that is what I do. Since I know a fair amount of SEO and other blogging tactics I’m able to charge a little more.

As you can see there is no silver bullet in making blog money but many rounds in the clip. Find the best ammunition and you can kill in the blogsphere. (Okay I ended on a bad joke, but you get the idea.)

What do you think? Leave your thoughts in the comments area or email me with your questions.

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